Resolving Conflict


As I have often said in my practice as a psychotherapist, one can only change a situation for oneself by examining our own behavior.  We can do nothing about the acts and attitudes of others.  So in that spirit I have on occasion engaged in the concept of Naikan (  The manual begins with the idea of self-reflection.  We can observe our own thoughts and feelings and recall actions and events of the past. This capacity for self-reflection holds the key to our freedom.  Self reflection enables us to examine one’s own life with the emphasis on ones conduct in relation to other people, creatures and objects. In the end we are stripped naked of our excuses, rationalizations and self-justification. Leaving us to view our life as we have lived it.

I urge my readers to read this one page description of Naikan.

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